By Emma Li I It was not until I was much older that I started to appreciate my parents’ parenting. My parents raised me in gender-neutral way. I never really dressed up or wore makeup when I was a little girl. My mom never put emphasis on my appearance. My family lived in the countryside of China. I was rather wild growing up. Catching crickets, building glass “houses” for ants, catching obese mice, and playing hide and seek with neighbors’ kids were just a few things I did as a child. My mom said that I always went to play with my classmates at their houses after school. She had to tell me repeatedly that I should go home first when I got out…